Well if you ask me to say a word, which every student fears, hates and wishes not to happen in their life, it would be “EXAMS!”

“Ahhh I’m completely under stress now. My dad will kill me if I don’t get good grades.” 

“Huff tension. Lots of portions pending. Have to mug up the whole syllabus now.”

Well these are some common dialogues which every student have said at least once in their lifetime. Let us now analyze the causes for this. And who all play a major role in building up the stress in the minds of the students.

What is stress?

Stress should be a powerful driving force, not an obstacle.

-Bilal Philips

If you take the definition of stress it states:  “Stress is a state of mental or emotional strain or tension resulting from adverse or demanding circumstances.”

Students generally tend to have stress during the examinations. And my personal opinion is that 90% of this stress is laid upon them by their parents. I’ve seen parents threatening the poor children to study and gain high grades in their exams, without which they are being oppressed in the family.

One of my friend, who is currently studying in Amity University, Dubai had gained 8.0/10 SGPA in her semester exams. Imagine if it was you, what would be your reaction? How happy would you be? But her parent didn’t even look at her. She’s like a bird in a cage who has no voice in her house. And the funniest part, though you need to ponder on its seriousness, is that her parents do all these as she didn’t get 9.0/10 as she has to secure 9.0 in order to regain her scholarship. No wonder why kids these days commit suicide!

We are now living in a world where if today we take the newspaper to look at the results of the students, tomorrow we look on how many have committed suicide. One major reason for this is the lack of mental strength which every students possess. But on the other hand, if we be in their shoes, we get to know from which all sides are the blames being thrown onto them.

Students tend to leave the life instead of living it. It has to be deeply thought about, because the so called people who say “You students are the future” has not done anything to minimize the suicide rate of the students. Personally speaking, I myself have heard my friends saying, “Wished I was just dead. Then I need not hear any scolding from my parents right”

My dear parents. I have a question to you all. You might have heard this but still I want to ask you all again, would it be just if your spouse compares you with your neighbor’s spouse or your colleagues spouse?! Would that be helpful for you to build a smooth marital life? NEVER!

Then why do you compare your children with other children? Don’t you feel it’s an insult?

I have this friend of mine and he was not so studious but he was very kind hearted. But every time when the results come, he was being blamed as his friend who was also his neighbor got higher grades than him. Believe me or not, he started hating his friend and they had to break their friendship and they still remain enemies. What or who was the reason behind this? Did the student get higher grades than before? The answer is “NO!”

Then why my dear parents are u longing for higher grades for you students? For a name and fame? For boasting among your colleagues? For sending them abroad and earn their income?

It’s funny to see that most of the parents after reading this article will tend to have a sentimental approach by saying, “We are not so. We never intended anything as said here. We wanted our child to shine in his/her future. We wanted to make him/her the best”. But let me say to you my dear parent, please try to make your child a better human being before you make them a better student. And never turn him/her to run behind grades. You know why? Because in long run, they won’t give any concern for values in their lives. In the end when you need their support, they will just dump you into the old age homes. And they will send you money every month and probably a letter or a phone call every month. In the letter their questions will be about the farms, about the house and about the wealth they have. You would be dying to hear a word of love out of them. And they will never give any concern for you. Because they’ve reached a position what you wanted them to reach to. But then, they lost their values on their way to achieve it.

Hence, my dear parents. It’s a student’s humble request. I’m one among them. I’m also like your child who’s facing these stress. I’m also seeing the reactions of the students in depth as I’m being with them most of the time. Prepare your children for an examination in their lives, not just for a board examination or a school or a university examination. Make them a better human and yes it will make them a better child whom you’ll always want to be with.

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